Setting goals at the correct level may take some practice. If you set your goals too high you may find yourself frustrated with your progress, or lack thereof. In setting and working towards your goal, consider the following:

  1. Do you have enough information? Make researching the requirements of your goal a part of the process. You may learn that achieving your goal requires gaining specific knowledge, skills or equipment that you did not initially factor in.
  2. Are you trying to please other people? Consider if your goal is something you want or something your partner wants. It is okay to be inspired by another’s needs and interests; however, your goal must be your own. If your goal will impact or involve others, take time to discuss your feelings and plans. Offer to help them with their goal as well.
  3. Do you expect perfection? Even if you have set a realistic goal, you may face challenges along the way. If you take a step backwards, focus on your next step forward. You may have to modify your expectations and timeline.
  4. Have you built in time to rejuvenate? Consider the intensity of the plan to achieve your goal. If you start at a sprint, you may tire too fast. Be prepared to work hard and also build in time for rest and relaxation. As you see progress towards your goal, you will likely feel motivated to continue.

For some, the thought of setting a goal may be overwhelming. If you set a goal, yet have an underlying fear, you may not take the risks needed to reach your goals. Trusted friends, family or professionals such as clergy can assist in helping you craft goals for positive change. Reach out for support so you too can experience the satisfaction of achieving a goal that is important to you.